I am so excited to be offering this workshop to friends in my local community. I am teaming up with my friend Gail Serna, we are joining forces to share with you some of the gifts we've discovered that may help you navigate the challenges we all face in this world, in a more peaceful way.
Would you like to learn about your chakra energy centers? Would you like to learn how to balance them? Would you like to learn a unique way to open up to your own Divine guidance? Gail Serna and I have designed this workshop for you! We are bringing our gifts together in order to offer more tools for you to gain a higher understanding of how energy can be accessed and used to strengthen your connection with your own intuition.
In this very special workshop, I will share information about energy that resides in your chakras and will guide you through Chakra Dyana. This is an ancient meditation from India designed to access the energy contained within your first seven chakras. You will learn how to use the vibration of your own voice to activate and balance the energy within your chakra system and gain an incredible connection with your own Divine guidance. When this energy is blocked it is challenging for our messages to get through, come learn how to clear the channels. This meditation transcends all religious traditions and even human language itself. Relaxing and empowering at the same time.
After the chakra balancing portion of the workshop, Gail will share how you can access your own Divine guidance and psychic intuition. She is happy to share her knowledge with you, she will focus on grounding, clearing and protecting your aura. Come learn how to tap into the intuitive guidance that is available to you! For information about Gail you can see her website at www.GailSerna.com.
We are excited to see how this workshop will unfold for you! It will be an unforgettable experience. We hope that you will be able to carry what you learn in this workshop with you into your everyday life in order to live more peacefully knowing that you are capable of accessing the power and guidance you may have never known was there. Let us help you unlock the key.
No experience needed, just an open mind (and perhaps a small notebook if you like). We are so grateful we can offer this workshop to you!
Wednesday JULY 12
Be The Change Energy Center
22030 Clarendon Street, Woodland Hills
RSVP needed by July 5
$30 fee paid in advance to reserve your seat
Call me at 818-388-2959 to make arrangements
I am really getting comfortable and expanding my philosophy of combining the meditation and physical training part of what I do. I am hoping that the way I explain things to people really gets through to them and helps them gain the clarity they need to figure out how they need to move forward whether it's to mentally get past a physical challenge or an emotional/spiritual one.
Be Brave! Go beyond what you ever imagined yourself doing. Don't let yourself be stagnant in your way of thinking about life. You can go beyond your expectations of yourself!
The other day I was with a friend who is many years older than I am. I noticed, as I often do with this particular friend, that she is scared to do certain things. She hesitates and takes the long way around in order to avoid certain steps or declines to do certain activities that she deems "dangerous". She has it in her head that she is "old" and is in danger of falling and breaking a bone. I try to talk her through movements. I try to encourage her to pick up her feet so that she can clear that obstacle in the parking lot but often she prefers to walk around an uneven area. We all know you can't make someone do something that they don't want to do.
As a personal trainer, I can help people get physically stronger. But a client will not step up to a challenge unless they have the inner strength to move forward. No matter how great a personal trainer is, the only way training can be successful is if the client is "all in".
If you are at a spot in your life where you'd like to change your outlook, I really encourage you to get outside of your comfort zone. Perhaps meditation could benefit you but only try it if you are really open to it. I'm happy to stick with the physical stuff only if that's what my client is interested in.
Recently I was reminiscing with my husband about high school prom. We did not know each other back then, we were just sharing our respective memories. We had never had this particular conversation before. My husband shared with me how mortified he was at the memory of the tuxedo he had worn. He chose it, there was no one else to blame. He loved that tuxedo at the time. He described it as a metallic silver shiny material, akin to a robot looking fabric. He looked something like the Tin Man he laments. It wasn't until later that he realized how ridiculous it was. Oh how I wish there were photos! We laughed.
Today I was in a tuxedo shop looking around and was reminded of my dad. When I was young I remember him choosing a tuxedo one time that I recall was not at all the one I would have chosen. He was adamant that that was the one for him. Despite my attempts to dissuade him, he insisted on this particular unattractive (in my opinion) tuxedo. He was so sure, he was so excited about his choice despite the opinions around him. I still remember that awkward conversation. As I stood in this tuxedo shop earlier today I began to laugh to myself imagining my 17 year old husband having the same type of conversation with his mom as he insisted on his shiny silver tuxedo. It occurred to me that I chose a man very like my dad to live my life with. I guess it's true you are attracted to a partner that is like your parent even if you don't realize it until years later. In some ways I married my dad!
Along these same lines, my mind began to brighten at the beautiful idea that OMG the same counter point is true for my husband. There have been so many instances over the years where people have laughed at how similar I am to his mom. We can't sleep with noises happening, we like to get specific instructions on how to do things if we are in charge of someone else's house (or kids). These are just a few of the similarities that have brought much amusement to our family over the years. Yes, in some ways he married his mom.
I just love my dad so much and I love my mother in law too! I'm just so often reminded how the universe works in mysterious ways. I can't wait to meet the future partners that our children end up drawn to.
This Easter Season began as a hunt for me. For some reason my perspective on nature shifted. So many times I would look at the world and see interesting ways of finding hidden gems amidst the branches or petals around me. It began with that first curious shot of the moon in a random tree and then it blossomed from there. : )
Shifting your perspective and allowing yourself to be open to new possibilities can be amazing. Nature has so many gifts to offer if you stay attuned to it. Take some time to look around you today. Stop and smell the roses. Notice the cloud formations above you. Close your eyes and feel the wind on your face or the warmth of the sun. Touch that soft petal that you pass by as you walk to your car. Touch your own hair. You are a part of nature too!
Enjoy my perspective, here are some of the highlights of the season for me.
You won't even believe what I was thinking when I took this photo. I was on the side of the road at 7 a.m. in the morning, walking through knee high grass trying to capture beautiful spring flowers. I saw some spider webs clinging to the moist undergrowth and thought I would hone in on a particular web to try and get a cool shot. I am not even kidding you, as I stepped gingerly through the greens I began talking to the undergrowth in my head. "Don't worry little spider, I won't step on you." I truly was stepping along trying not to do harm.
Only after I got home and zoomed in on this shot did I discover the planet I had caught on camera. I just love this photo so much! I love the little stars reflected in the droplet of water. I love the way it dangles there so delicately. I love the way it seems to have been giving me messages, pleading for safety. It reminds me of Horton Hears a Who. It reminds me that this earth needs our help. As I examine this photo more closely I wonder if that is my reflection I see in the light. It reminds me of how precarious life is, how delicate the balance.
This photo reminds me that we are all living on a little dew drop floating in space. We are all in this little bubble we call earth. It reminds me that we all can be sending out messages pleading for safety and love to something greater than ourselves. It reminds me how small we all are, yet so loved.
I can't stress to you enough my firm belief that it is not my job to tell anyone else what to do. It's just so true! Awhile ago I wrote a post called "Only You Can Turn the Switch On" - the same idea. As a personal trainer I am qualified, in fact obligated and happy to tell you what to do to be safe and effective with your physical workouts. Don't get me wrong - I love telling people what to do, just ask my family. But from an emotional standpoint I can NOT tell you what to do. It is completely up to you to get off that sofa or throw out those chips. Sure I can come to your house and get in your face about it or go through your pantry or take you to the market to buy healthy food but once I leave - chances are you will revert to old habits.
It is my job to help you figure out how to dig deep and be your own coach, your own boss, your own motivator. I love spending time with you and encouraging you but I can't possibly be with you every minute of the day. You need to fill that role for yourself and YOU CAN. You have the strength within you - you just need to take the time to get in touch with it,, admit it is there. Be AWARE of your own power and trust it. I can help you figure out how to do that but then it's up to you. I'm so excited to watch you grow! So excited to be part of the process of encouraging you to stretch to your fullest.
When I was in high school my dad took me on a date. We dressed up and had reservations at an incredible restaurant. It was The Cove in downtown La Jolla, very upscale. I recall this wonderful date so distinctly because it was so very rare to get my dad all to myself like this. I think we were celebrating my acceptance to the college I wanted to go to but I'm not sure. I just recall how happy it made me.
You may think...why does a dad need a reason to take his daughter on a date? In our case, it wasn't needing a reason that perhaps made it unique but the fact that we just did not have the financial resources to indulge in such outings very often. My parents did the best they could, they did a fantastic job in fact, of raising 3 children with a limited budget. Some of my best memories come from dates like this, or tent camping trips.
I still remember this particular date. My dad was so very thrilled as we entered the restaurant and the waiter assumed I was my dad's girlfriend. He thought it was so funny, was so very proud and loved me so much! That feeling of his love is what I remember the most even to this day, more than 30 years later.
I also remember being so excited and proud of him on many of our camping trips as he made fire for our family campsite or figured out how to put up the tent. The same kind of skills humans have enjoyed for thousands of years. The same skills children watch and remember today sometimes. Of course, my mom could figure this stuff out too (and often did). This is not a comment on the power of the male gender but since my dad's birthday passed recently he has been on my mind.
It is not the activity itself that we are giving to our children but the memory. They will hold it forever. It is the love and security that they will remember, not exactly what they ordered or what material item they may have received. It is not how many times you even give them a particular memory but the strength of your love. If my dad was in the habit of taking me on fancy dates every month this one date may not be so embedded in my memory. So Dad, I want you to know, I appreciate everything you ever did for me - you gave me the best gift of all - your time and love.
The photo attached to this post is of my dad with his beautiful mom. I remember asking him years ago where they were when this photo was taken. He did not recall. He didn't recall who else was with them. I'm not sure if he even recalled this photo being taken. But I do know that looking at that photo reminded him of his connection with his mom. He felt her love. Even after she was gone from this earth that feeling remained. That is what life is made of. We always have that connection to those we love. That is the kind of gift that matters. That is the kind of gift that endures through the generations whether you are making a campfire, mashed potatoes or tamales - I will remember that feeling and pass it to my children.
Seems like an appropriate Spring time title right? One of my favorite phrases is "just keep swimming" but I didn't want to take anything away from Dory. By the way, Ellen is on my mind a lot lately...not sure what that means...
Anyway, a thought has been floating around in my head that I want to share. I get the best messages from the oddest places sometimes.
Last weekend at my daughter's water polo tournament her team was in first place on the first day of a two day tournament. Now, I must explain, usually her team is towards the lower end of the rankings, wins are a rare treat. This particular day the first team they played had to forfeit due to too few players. Yes, they all rallied and some of our team played on their team for a fun scrimmage. We lost something like 14-2 but that's ok - it counted as a WIN for us. Woo Hoo!
Later in the day we played a team and actually DID win! YAY! My daughter scored the very first goal of the game. Double YAY! She is one of two girls on the boy team. So proud of her!! Now for this WIN it didn't matter if that opponent was the 4th level team of the other club (not sure of proper vocabulary but that means they were not the most skilled players that the club had to offer). That's ok, it doesn't matter. Our kids WON!
At the end of this day we were officially in first place because we had 2 WINS. Phenomenal! So Exciting! As the kids parted ways their coach tells them that they are in first place, if they win the games the following day they will win the entire tournament. The kids were sooooo excited! Chatter about all the different scenarios of winning was so wonderful to hear! What a great feeling to end the day.
Well, one of the parents, bless her heart, tells me privately "I don't think I would have told them." We have a conversation about how many times they've lost, how sad it always is to see all the fancy trophies and they never get one. She is so sweet, she loves her boy so much she doesn't want him to experience disappointment. I understand but I couldn't help feeling that even if they have that one night to dream about victory, the loss (NOT guaranteed loss, POSSIBLE loss) is not even there yet. The excitement of possibly winning is so powerful! Why not enjoy that feeling as long as possible without holding back at the thought of failure?
Well, of course today I'm ruminating on this very important message. With all the things that are happening in my life right now - why stop myself from moving forward because I'm afraid of failing? Why should anyone stop themselves from joy because of worry? It is not naive, it is not crazy, it is life - enjoy the happy times with abandon. Go all in!
The happy times are the ones to hang on to. Seriously, I really believe the kids will remember being in first place for years from now more than they will that they lost. And yes, they did lose the next day. But now they know what it's like to feel like a winner even for that one night. Now they know what they are aiming for. Now they can hop from that one tournament to the next hoping and striving for that victorious feeling again. It's better to hop from one victory/happy event to the next instead of dragging yourself there being bitter over bad calls and staying in that loss. Stay on that high and hop from one happy time to the next - you know it's coming - what are you going to do with the time in between?
Ok, so I was thinking about marketing strategies and realized that even that term makes me uncomfortable. There it is, that beast called "vocabulary". It seems so pushy to say "marketing". I must admit - I am the first to hang up (politely of course, well, unless I can't hear them clearly or they hesitate before speaking) on obvious cold call salespeople. So annoying!
My Dad was a professional salesman for most of his life so I don't know where this attitude came from. Hmmm maybe subconsciously I didn't like the way he asked for business or just the whole idea of asking for business bugged me in some way? Regardless, I know I'm not the only person to shy away from marketers BUT I am also the same person who will in fact buy things from people in person that I perceive as great products (ie. DoTerra Essential Oils, Pampered Chef, etc.) I absolutely see the value in direct sales of quality merchandise.
I must recognize that some products just truly are not available off the shelf (ie. Girl Scout cookies) or I need a little guidance in the face of product overload (vitamins) or advice on where to get the best services (physical therapy, best schools, hair cuts). I must admit that I need and rely on people giving me information about their products. Is this marketing? Hmmm well yes I guess it is.
Historically I don't have a problem either letting people know about products that are my favorites (Girl Scout cookies-come on - they sell themselves) or about services I recommend (like my friend Audrey Newmont and her empowerment workshops or Pam Dilbeck with her amazing personal training). But am I marketing? Hmmm no, I choose to think of it as "offering" information. I do not have a problem being told "no". It's ok with me if you don't want to buy my daughter's cookies; it doesn't affect my opinion of them. I am in no way offended. It won't stop me from making the offer to more people. I have no problem spreading the word about certain great products or services. Why shouldn't I do this for myself?
I need to get my head wrapped around this idea. I am not "marketing" my personal training/meditation services - I am offering them to those that may benefit. Those that want my services will let me know and those that don't will go elsewhere. There are so many great trainers and different types of meditation out there. Everyone will find their unique fit. All I can do is send out the invitation and let people know I am here. I am not marketing, I am offering services.
Next time a telemarketer calls I will keep this perspective in mind (although they better speak up quick before I hang up the phone, politely of course).
OK so I've been up since 4 a.m. tossing and turning...and then it comes to me. Oh yeah, now is the time I'm supposed to get up and actually write some of this stuff down. You have no idea how many blog posts have scurried across my brain in the last month yet I haven't been finding the time to write them down. Countless pearls of wisdom I'm sure...sorry world, once they fly by, they are really hard to retrieve.
Alas, here is one I can not ignore. The universe doesn't care when or how things happen. It's up to us. We have to take that step and we need to do it QUICK while the thought and intention is there. Yes, I know the rule - think before you speak, sleep on it before you press send, don't speak until spoken to. The funny thing is ...life is full of confusing and sometimes seemingly contradictory rules.
I laughed the other day looking at the titles of some of my YouTube videos..."Just Say Yes" "Just Say No" "Oooh Baby Just a Little Lower" and I'm going to do one soon called "Get a Little Higher". What's a person to do? Vocabulary can play tricks on us. Our brain wants so badly to KNOW what to do that it grabs language and forces it to its will. LET IT GO! If you stay in your head all the time you will miss out on so much. So much good action, intention, purpose, intuition that sometimes has no root in the limited vocabulary that we use.
I just did my first exercise video...so excited but of course I'm looking at it thinking some parts could be much better. I feel trapped by the language I used in the video thinking of all the modifications or criticisms "professionals" could have of my description. But the bottom line is - I TOOK ACTION. I don't know where it will lead but I can't let my fear prevent me from going forward.
Follow your thoughts without over analyzing them. You may be surprised where they take you. We laugh in our family about my "famous" phrase "hesitation is the mother of all accidents". I'm talking about insecure drivers that drive too slow and cause trouble for themselves or others. I'm trying not to let hesitation cause trouble in my own life right now. Wish me luck!
Just saying this stuff out loud (well on paper or I mean on screen :) seems silly. Of course you need to use your brain but I'm telling you - it seems to me that your heart may often know better.